Dealing With Sex at Work (Employee as a Target).
Some persons are molested at work or have had colleagues at work make sexual advances towards them. Truth be said, some of this advances might not be stopped outrightly but can be reduced to the barest minimum with strict company regulations.
As a Christians, we must be prepared or know how to handle sexual advances to avoid being hurt. There are several ways in which this can be achieved and they include:
1. Take Your Stand
It's obvious that some persons become victims because they do not want to take a stand as a Christian. People at their place of work will not believe that they are Christians because they get involved in financial malpractice or are found saying profane words. Hence, they can't be classified as Christians by their colleagues. And colleagues at work will feel okay to make sexual advances.
2. Dress How You Want to be Addressed.
Don't expect to put on skimpy clothes at work as a lady and not expect people to make funny comments. It's only for a while before those comments will change to actions. The same also applies to men, who must ensure they do not put on extremely tight fitting clothes.
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3. Keep the Glances and Words.
Some persons make seductive glances in a way of being friendly but unknown to them, they are actually stirring up lustful fire. Guys and ladies must also be careful about the words they say to their colleagues at work because people read different meaning to words. Words like sweetie, honey pie, babe, etc should be used with caution as words could be misinterpreted.
4. Make Your Stand Known When Going on a Business Trip.
Let your boss know that you can not share the same room, but in a polite manner. "Sir, I will be booking two rooms in the company name". And if possible let them be far apart from each other unless it is necessary for them to be close together. And keep your room locked. Don't answer the door unless the receptionist calls to inform of room service.
5. Pause the Lunch
If you notice that your boss is making unnecessary moves towards you avoid going on lunch with him alone. If you must go then it must be strictly business or you must take someone else with you. You can politely decline the offer, "Sir/Ma I actually came with my own food and I would not want it to waste".
6. Do Not Stay Late.
If you must work late, ensure that there are others around. Don't work late with someone who has looked at you lustfully. Discourage every move that will lead to sex or sexual advances. You can politely make you boss know that you have a church service to attend or a child to take care of.
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7. Keep to the Job Description.
There is nothing wrong in helping your boss out on a personal note. But it must have a limit. Do not become a personal driver for a woman who already has her eyes on you. If you must do so it must be done with utmost discretion. Give your boundaries and make it difficult for her.
8. Keep the Distance.
When it's evident that a colleague has dirty plans for you, do not hug him or her, rather use a hand shake or just greet him or her without contact. You won't be jailed, if you don't hug someone or shake someone.
9. Avoid Lonely Places.
If you must go to lonely places at work, then go with someone you can trust not someone who has already given you lustful gestures. If you must go with him or her, then go with one additional person you can trust.
10. Speak Out
When someone touches you sexually be it your bust, waist or buttocks, warn such person sternly never to try such again. If he does not want to be reported to the police or to the disciplinary committee, if the company has one. If it's your boss also warn him and make him realise that you expected more from him as your boss, and that you believe he made a mistake. Do not be rude.
11. Choose your Association Wisely.
Do not expect to stay with a pig and not expect to be treated like a pig. Watch the friends you make or keep. If you keep friends who tend to have affairs with colleagues at work. Expect others to also think that you are also part of their game.
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12. Leave, if you Must.
Take a bow and walk away, if you noticed that every thing you have done has not been successful. Its best to keep your integrity and chastity as a Christian but this must be done in prayers as God always directs his own on the righteous path.
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