Married before Marriage
The Importance of Value.
John walked up to Adah, and with a smile asked about the drink she took. It seemed to John that she had good knowledge of what the restaurant had to offer. He was not wrong as she spoke about the various dishes that they had since she was a frequent user of the restaurant. John loved the way she handled his question. It was obvious to him that she would be a good sales personnel and also a good friend to keep. Well, so he thought....
Two months later, he and Adah were still friends, not because he was interested in the food the restaurant had to offer but because of the values Adah had to offer. He was not the type who was willing to jump quickly into conclusion, but truth be told he had an eye for Adah.
His observations were not wrong as it became obvious to him that Adah had 70 percent of the qualities he needed in a wife, the rest he felt he could actually groom her to become. This gave him satisfaction, hence he decided to take a shot.
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He sat in the fast food restaurant, where the atmosphere was filled with the aroma of wonderfully made snack which a hungry man could not resist with Adah sitting opposite him. He had met Adah at other restaurant before to discuss business but today was definitely a different type of business.
Taking the Shot.
He popped the question to Adah after beating around the bush a bit romantically and asked her, if she will be his date: since, he was willing to get married in a year and half. Ada had smiled, and politely told John, "I am in a serious relationship and it won't be possible."
John found it difficult to accept, though he knew that she was not lying but he sincerely wanted her as his wife. He tried other ways to convince her but Adah was faithful to her relationship and was not willing to give in.
John accepted his fate, and was lucky enough to find another lady who met his need in a woman. Within a year and half they got married but he still remained friends with Adah as she helped him out with his business ideas occasionally.
Wrong Intention for Staying in a Relationship.
After four years, Adah was still not married but was currently dating someone different from whom she had told John she was in a serious relationship with. It was obvious to her, that her current date was not showing prospects of marrying her or doing something reasonable to change his financial status.
But Adah was not willing to leave as she kept having hope. She felt things will turn out for the best. Besides she was not willing to let go the time she had invested in the relationship. For her, she saw it as a waste of time. Hence, the need for her to stick to the relationship and make it to work.
While she focused her energy on the relationship, she rejected several suitors without seeing the need to pray as she was a Christian. Rather she kept her hopes up and hoped her predicament will come to an end.
Misplaced Priorities in a Relationship.
Adah had been MARRIED BEFORE MARRIAGE. She placed the commitment meant for her marriage in a relationship. She was bringing her future into the present, hence acting faster than her shadow and also jeopardizing her future. The future meant for the serious. A future that was already known by God. Her emotions was all that led her.
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The place of God had been substituted because she felt that God would want her to handle the situation alone and not get him involved. Her thoughts and action was making her get older without truly making her achieve her destiny faster. Since, her getting married was pertinent in the achievement of her dreams.
A lot of ladies have found themselves in this same shoe and are currently struggling but until you put an end to that relationship and take the bold step towards your God-given suitor, you might never fulfil destiny on time.
It's God's will that you seek his face when suitors come to you. Even if you are in a relationship. Unless, if God has told you that the person you are in a relationship with, will be your husband.
The Right Time to Switch.
God might permit you to be in a relationship because he wants you to learn something does not mean that he wants you, to get married to that person. Be sensitive because the two instructions are not the same.
Understand, when the instruction has changed, and don't try to force meaning into God's instructions. Sometimes, he might ask you to make a lady your friend because he wants you to teach her what you know, and not because he wants you to marry that lady.
Do not be like Prophet Agabus who became emotional with the prophecy God gave him about Apostle Paul (Acts 21:10-14). Forgetting that God only sent him to prophesy and not to stop Paul. Christians are called to be led by the Holy Spirit and not by their thought or emotion.
Stop being MARRIED BEFORE MARRIAGE.
God loves.
KingHenzy cares.
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